Walking on Eggshells: Parenting a Child with Anxiety Disorder

Tony Beals • May 21, 2025

Walking on Eggshells: Parenting a Child with Anxiety Disorder

If you’re parenting a child with anxiety or school refusal, this post is for you.

As someone who has lived with anxiety my entire life—and as a parent to children with anxiety disorders—I know firsthand how overwhelming and complicated this journey can be. Parenting a child with a mental health condition means balancing emotional support with daily responsibilities, all while feeling like you’re constantly walking on eggshells. You are not alone. I know it's exhausting, and your experience is real.

It’s Not Your Fault

Anxiety disorders are medical conditions, not the result of bad parenting or missed red flags. It’s easy to fall into the trap of self-blame. But shame and guilt won’t help you or your child. What does? Compassion—for yourself and your child.


It’s Not Their Fault Either

Kids with anxiety aren’t being dramatic or defiant—they’re overwhelmed. It’s not a behavioral issue; it’s a nervous system in overdrive. When you respond with empathy first, you’re already helping.



Don’t Force Conversations—Just Be Present

Your instinct may be to ask lots of questions to help, but sometimes, that can add pressure. Try creating low-pressure moments—whether through car rides, baking, or gaming. These moments can open doors to connection more naturally.

Learn to Recognize the Signs

Common signs of anxiety in kids:

  • Difficulty falling asleep or winding down
  • Struggles getting out the door in the morning
  • Avoidance behaviors (like staying in their room)
  • Irritability, indecision, or mystery stomach aches/headaches
  • Clinging to routines or low-pressure activities like open-world games

These aren’t “bad habits” or “mood swings”—they’re signs of internal distress.



Video Games Might Be a Healthy Coping Strategy

Yes, really. Open-world games like Minecraft, Terraria, or Zelda can provide:

  • A sense of control
  • Creative expression
  • Emotional escape in a manageable space

It’s not always avoidance—it’s self-regulation. Balance is key, but so is empathy.

Support, Don’t “Fix”

You can’t cure anxiety, but you can offer support. This might look like:

  • Building in extra time for transitions
  • Offering choices instead of ultimatums
  • Creating soothing rituals for calming down
  • Celebrating small wins along the way

Your patience, presence, and consistency are more powerful than any “quick fix.”


Final Thought

You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to keep showing up, loving your child through the hard days—and giving yourself grace along the way.


Resources for Parents

  • Child Mind Institute – childmind.org Anxiety and Depression Association of America
  • adaa.org The Trevor Project (for LGBTQ+ youth)
  • thetrevorproject.org Your Child’s School Counselor or Pediatrician – Can help coordinate support plans and referrals


Recommended Books:

  • Helping Your Anxious Child by Ronald Rapee, PhD
  • The Anxiety Survival Guide for Teens by Jennifer Shannon, LMFT
  • Breaking Free of Child Anxiety and OCD by Eli R. Lebowitz, PhD

Disclaimer: I’m not a therapist—just a parent and educator who works with students experiencing anxiety and school refusal. Please consult a professional for mental health support.

Tony Beals is the VP of Admissions and Enrollment Solutions at Brightmont Academy. Tony has extensive experience as both a parent and an educator working with students from an array of backgrounds including those with anxiety, depression, ASD, ADHD, and ODD. He has been in the education industry for over 25 years and has been involved as a teacher, consultant, manager, and leader. 

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