Perfectly Imperfect
Perfectly Imperfect
We spend so much of our lives believing we have to fix ourselves.
That we need to polish away the quirks, smooth over the rough edges, and finally “get it together” before we’re worthy.

But here’s the truth I wish more of us heard sooner:
- You don’t need to be perfect. You need to be human.
And being human means being gloriously, stubbornly, beautifully imperfect.
𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐓𝐫𝐚𝐩 𝐨𝐟 “𝐄𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡”
There was a time when I used to try to live up to what I thought Ideal was. That’s when I started observing people's behaviors like how they walked, how they talked, and what subjects they discussed. I studied them and tried to learn about those same things (that's how I became so well versed in sports).
I thought perfection meant being popular, obedient, scholarly, kind, humorous, and stylish. So I tried to mimic all those traits. But instead of becoming “perfect,” I ended up looking like a mismatched collage of other people. (To be fair, my style never really worked).

For those of us with ADHD, AuDHD, or other neurodivergences, the voice of “not enough” can get especially loud:
- You’re too much.
- You didn’t start fast enough.
- You over-explained again.
- Why can’t you just… (fill in the blank).
It whispers that if we could just “fix” these flaws, life would finally click.
But here’s what I’ve learned: often, the very things we call flaws are also our "superpowers". In fact, studies show that about 30–40% of adults report high levels of perfectionism, which is linked to stress, anxiety, and burnout. That means many of us are trying to ‘fix’ ourselves when our quirks might actually be our greatest strengths. (Source: Hewitt & Flett, 1991; Frost et al., 1990.)
Your tendency to over-explain? It’s also why you can tell a story that moves people. Your difficulty starting? It’s tied to the creativity that thrives when urgency kicks in. They hyper-processing that has you focus on 10 things at once? It's why you are also a great multi-tasker.
And part of the challenge isn’t just personal. It’s cultural. In a world that celebrates perfection, speed, and efficiency, it’s no wonder so many of us feel “not enough.”
𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐡𝐢𝐟𝐭
When we stop chasing perfection and start embracing “perfectly imperfect,” something changes. Studies show that embracing our imperfections, instead of chasing perfection, can reduce stress and actually strengthen the connections we have with others.

Suddenly, the shame starts to loosen its grip, and our self-compassion sneaks in where criticism used to live. Mistakes stop feeling like failures and start feeling like opportunities. Conversations end up becoming richer, because people don’t actually bond over what perfection is...they bond over what's real.
This shift shows up in everyday moments. Maybe it’s raising your hand even when you’re unsure, telling a story that rambles but connects deeply, or admitting when you need help. These are moments where your imperfections are not weaknesses and they are the very things that make you relatable, memorable, genuine, and human.
Embracing imperfection also transforms your internal experience. You feel lighter, freer, and more present. Tasks don’t have to be flawless to matter. Creativity and authenticity flourish when you stop trying to control everything and start showing up as you are.
So, what would happen if you let go of perfection just a little today? Could you give yourself permission to be human, to make a mistake, or to speak your truth even if it’s messy? The shift isn’t about becoming perfect because it’s about discovering that you were enough all along.

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐓𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐚𝐰ay
You don’t have to erase who you are to be enough.
You are already enough as well as imperfect. Those two truths can live side by side.
Different wiring just needs different strategies. But the humanness? That was always whole.
#ADHD #Neurodiversity #Authenticity #PerfectlyImperfect #SelfCompassion #MentalHealth #Leadership #Tabletalkswithtony
Thanks for reading 𝗧𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗧𝗮𝗹𝗸𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗧𝗼𝗻𝘆 . This article reflects my original writing and lived experience. Feel free to share the link or repost, but please don’t republish or copy the content without permission. © 2025 Tony Beals. All rights reserved.
Written by Tony Beals, VP at Brightmont Academy and author of the “Table Topics with Tony” newsletter and the upcoming book, The Education Paradox.© 2025 Tony Beals

Tony Beals is the VP of Admissions and Enrollment
Solutions at Brightmont Academy. Tony has
extensive experience as both a parent and an
educator working with students from an array of
backgrounds including those with anxiety,
depression, ASD, ADHD, and ODD. He has been in
the education industry for over 25 years and has
been involved as a teacher, consultant, manager,
and leader.
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